Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Cheshvan 4:12 To repent for LH, one must ask subject mechila (only if he was hurt; socially, emotionally, etc.) It is impossible for a habitual LH speaker to ask mechila from everyone he pained. 5:1 If you see someone doing sins bein adam l’chaveiro, (ex. not lending money that he could afford) you must not tell
Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Cheshvan 4:11 One seeking info about a potential shidduch/partner may ask others, and they may say necessary info (See rechilus Chap. 9 for more detail). However you must explain why you are asking so it will be with proper intention. One MAY NOT ask those who do not like the subject.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Cheshvan 4:7 One may publicly degrade the actions of someone who has no fear of G-d and clearly doesn’t regret his sins. He may be shamed until he mends bad ways. Do not judge him favorably. 4:8 If one does not heed command of Beis Din (w/o valid excuse), publicly degrade him and record his actions
Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Cheshvan 4:3 If you see an average Jew doing something wrong, even many times, you must assume it was a mistake or that he didn’t know it was wrong. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell. Maybe he did teshuva. Instead you should rebuke him privately and nicely.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Cheshvan 4:1 Asur to degrade someone about his parents’ negative actions or his own past misdeeds. Asur to tell about someone actively doing something wrong bein adam l’Makom. 4:2 Even a slight wrongdoing is asur to report i.e. not keeping a minhag etc.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Cheshvan 3:5 Asur to say LH in a sneaky fashion, i.e. to pretend you don’t realize that ploni acts this way or that what you’re saying is negative 3:6 Asur to say LH even if you know in advance that it wont cause any harm to the subject. Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Cheshvan 3:7 One must
Chofetz Chaim Daily 7 Cheshvan 3:1 Asur to say LH both in front of and not in front of the subject. 3:2 Something that can be understood as positive or slightly negative can only be said if you would say it in front of the subject. This indicates the positive intention. Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Cheshvan 3:3 Asur to degrade
Chofetz Chaim Daily 5 Cheshvan 2:11 When a community board holds a private vote e.g. to decide whether or not to rehire the chazzan, the voters must NOT relate their own OR others opinions, even if it was positive, because that will inevitably shift the blame on the other voters. Chofetz Chaim Daily 6 Cheshvan 2:12 Asur to degrade a
Chofetz Chaim Daily 4 Cheshvan 2:9 Heter of Apei Tlasa doesn’t allow one to believe the story, add to it, or show you agree to it. See sefer for further elaboration. 2:10 Heter doesn’t apply if listener will believe what you’re saying. With all its limitations, applying this heter is rare, and many authorities disagree with it anyway.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 3 Cheshvan 2:7 If the speaker told the 3 listeners not to repeat the story, then one can’t repeat it, even if other 2 didn’t obey. 2:8 No matter what wording he used to tell listeners not to repeat, you must not. Heter of apei t’lasa doesn’t apply if 2 people said LH to 2 others.