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July 2018

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Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Av 10:11 If you yourself was the one that was hurt, it is asur to spread because intention isn’t l’toeles. 10:12 It’s a bigger sin to spread if he didn’t even hurt you, just didn’t do you a favor that you expected.

30
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Av 10:9 If people won’t suspect the speaker of going behind the subject’s back (eg. tzadik), then it doesn’t need to be said in front of 3 people. 10:10 Relating someone’s wrongdoing bein adam laMakom is only mutar if it’s a known aveira and you’ve seen him do it many times b’mazid, unless he is a Tinok Shenishba (someone who didn’t have adequate Jewish education or stable youth)

29
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 16-17 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Av 10:5 Mutar to defame someone who spoke LH BUT only if the subject is aware of it. Otherwise it will lead to rechilus. 10:6 Even if the subject isn’t aware, mutar if it will create a preemptive benefit. Now people won’t believe the LH rumor that the speaker is trying to spread.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Av 10:7 You don’t have to rebuke the perpetrator (third condition ibid) if you’re sure he won’t accept it. But then you must spread to at least 3 people at a time, so they won’t think you’re going behind his back. 10:8 If the perpetrator is dangerous, then you may say it to less than 3 people.
26
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 14-15 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Av 10:1 Mutar to spread the injustice that ploni caused your friend IF it will help to right a wrong, or defame wrongdoers. 10:2 However you must fulfill 7 conditions: 1. absolutely factual 2. certain who the real villain is 3. rebuke perpetrator first 4. must not inflate crime 5. L’toeles & no personal benefit 6. first try other non LH solution 7. outcome must not be worse than Beis Din would mete out.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Av 10:3 Continued from yesterday. Only mutar if speaker himself isn’t guilty of the same crime. 10:4 Considered l’toeles if purpose is to defame sinners. Asur to tell people that don’t think the injustice was wrong, because it will bring to rechilus. In scenarios that LH is mutar, it is a mitzvah to say. If asur, asur period.
25
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Av 9:5 Mitzvah to restrain even your young children from LH so they’ll get into the habit. 9:6 Asur to repeat private matters heard from a friend.

 

24
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Av 9:3 Asur to relate praise that may cause damage. Eg. Telling that ploni hosted you or lent you money, etc. This can cause ploni harm bc others will now demand the same. Asur to say something that can be mistaken for LH. 9:4 Asur to live among baalei LH. Asur to listen even if not intending to believe. One who finds himself in a group of LH speakers must protest even if you know they won’t listen.

23
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Av 9:1 Asur to speak AVAK LH which is a negative inference eg. “who would think ploni would end up so good?”, “its better we dont talk about ploni” Praising ploni in presence of an enemy or excessive praise to any listener is also avak LH. 9:2 All praise is asur in public, except about universally accepted Tzaddik.

22
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 9-10 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Av 8:12 Asur to speak LH to a Jew. To a non-Jew is much worse because it causes a chilul Hashem. As well, the non-Jew will definitely believe it and cause the Jew great damage. Even more terrible is informing on a Jew to authorities. This is equal to apikorsus and great punishment awaits.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Av 8:13 Asur for anyone to BELIEVE LH regardless of who the subject is, except for apikores & informers etc.  8:14 Likewise, it doesn’t matter who its heard from, even parents and family members. One is responsible for the behaviors of his household. He should therefore restrain them from LH and set a positive example.
19
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 7-8 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 7 Av 8:8 Some permit LH about baalei machlokes to cause those at fault to stop fighting, IF 1. you have good intentions & not hate 2. no other way to stop it 3. you’re certain this party is the guilty one. 8:9 There is a cherem against saying LH about dead people, especially Torah scholars & their teachings.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Av 8:10 Asur to say LH to anyone; men, women & children. Telling your spouse every time someone wrongs or insults you will involve them in fight. Eventually s/he will lose respect for you when s/he sees you’re always being teased. 8:11 Asur to say LH to relatives, siblings & parents.
18
Jul

Chofetz Chaim Daily 6 Av

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 6 Av 8:5 Mitzvah to say LH about a known apikores (one who denies anything of written or oral law) The Poskim say that a Tinok Shenishba has a Halacha of a regular Jew and no LH should be said about him, unless it is LeToeles with all the conditions. 8:6 If its a rumor, you can suspect and stay away, but do not believe it until you see it yourself or otherwise verify it. 8:7 Same laws apply for a rasha. Here again the Halachos are different for a Tinok Shenishba.