Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Cheshvan 4:11 One seeking info about potential shidduch or partner may ask others, and they may say necessary info (See rechilus Chap. 9 for more detail). However you must tell the why you are asking to they will have proper intentions. One MAY NOT ask those who dont like the subject.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Cheshvan 4:9 If you see someone has bad middos, you must not badmouth him because he probably doesnt realize the severity of his actions, rather you should influence him to change. 4:10 You may tell your children or students to stay away from person with bad middos. However, you must explain why you are telling them.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Adar 4:7 Someone who has no fear of G-d and you see that he doesnt regret his sins, you may publicly degrade his actions and shame him until he mends bad ways, you also dont judge him favorably. 4:8 If one doesnt heed command of Beis Din (w/o valid excuse) you publicly degrade him and record
Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Cheshvan 4:5 If the person you saw doing the aveira isnt wholesome and wont accept your rebuke, and hes likely to repeat the sin, you may tell someone who can influence him to repent. If two people saw, then they may tell Beis Din to rebuke him. 4:6 You may tell that person even if he
Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Cheshvan 4:3 By an average Jew, you must assume that what he did was a mistake, or that he didnt know that it was wrong. Even if you saw him do it many times, asur to relate it. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell, because maybe he
Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Cheshvan 3:5 Asur to say LH in a sneaky fashion, i.e. to make believe one doesnt realize that what hes saying is negative, or that ploni acts this way 3:6 Asur to say LH even if you know in advance that it wont cause any harm to the subject.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Cheshvan 3:3 Asur to degrade someone even if said as a joke. 3:4 Asur to say anonymous story, if the listener will be able to discern who youre saying bad about. Asur to cause a negative impression about somebody, no matter how you accomplish that.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 7 Cheshvan 3:1 Asur to say LH NOT in front of the subject, and IN his presence is worse because it will cause a fight. 3:2 Mutar to say something that can be understood as positive or slightly negative, IF you know that you would say it in front of the subject, because if so, your method
Chofetz Chaim Daily 6 Cheshvan 2:12 Asur to degrade a speech that someone gave. If you think he should brush up his act, tell him privately. 2:13 If someone related a business idea in front of three people, you may repeat it, because he obviously isnt trying to keep it private.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 5 Cheshvan 2:11 When a community board holds a private vote e.g. to decide whether or not to rehire the chazzan, the voters must NOT relate their own OR others opinions, even if it was positive, because that will inevitably shift the blame on the other voters.