August 2018

Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Elul 9:3 If you know that A is plotting to hurt B, you must tell B provided fulfillment of aforementioned conditions. 9:4 you must be sure that by telling B, hell stay away from A, but if hes type to make preemptive strike on A and make a bigger fight, then you cant tell him.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Elul 9:1 If you know bad things about the person that A wants to enter partnership with, you must tell A, provided that you fulfill these conditions a. its definitely destructive to prospective partner b. must not exaggerate c. must intend ltoeles (be sure that A will actually take your advice) d. seek alternative methods first e. it cant cause ploni any additional loss.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Elul 8:4 Rechilus is asur even if the comment ploni made wasnt so bad, ex. When Sarah said, and my husband is old, Hashem didnt repeat that part to Avraham. 8:5 if someone tells you a secret, you may not repeat it, it can damage him and isnt derech tznius.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Elul 7:5 Asur to believe rechilus regardless of who is telling it to you, even one’s spouse. The Chofetz Chaim gives some advice; showing your willingness to listen will bring many more such stories, and with them, much heartache.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Elul 8:1 Asur to say Avak rechilus – negative implication (e.g. to tell R how ploni said lets not talk about what R did). 2) Praise that will cause hard feelings is also avak rechilus (e.g. to praise one before his spouse or partner about their charity giving; it will make the other think they’re wasting their money). 3) Asur to tell someone who refused you a favor, ploni told me that you did HIM similar favor because it will make him upset at ploni.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Elul 7:2 Asur to say rechilus about an am haaretz. About a Talmid Chacham is much worse a)its probably false b)it violates the mitzvah to honor and respect him c)worse ramifications (i.e. can ruin his influence, create a big fight, he will lose his position).

Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Elul 7:3 Asur to tell someone that ploni badmouthed him. Likewise asur to tell that to someone’s wife & relatives – they’ll get upset at ploni. 7:4 Much worse to say rechilus to a non-Jew about a Jew, because he may harm the Jew. Asur to denigrate a product or service that a Jew provided for a non-Jew.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Elul 6:8 Asur to believe rechilus even if it was a casual remark. See Hilchos LH Chap 7:10-14 for all laws of masiach lefi tumo. 6:9 Mutar to believe rechilus if you have circumstantial proof ONLY if a)there’s no way to favorably interpret the evidence b)proof is directly related to the story c) you witnessed it yourself d) there is a toeles e) you can’t share the rechilus with others & can’t harm ploni. 10)see sefer for practical application.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Elul 6:5 Mutar to believe rechilus told to you by a trustworthy person ONLY if the info is crucial & he saw it firsthand. 6:6 Trustworthy means someone who never lies, & you trust him like 2 witnesses for all matters. 6:7 Today, we can’t determine who is trustworthy, so you can’t believe it.