Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Teves 9:1 If you know bad things about the person that A wants to enter partnership with, you must tell A, provided that you fulfill these conditions a. its definitely destructive to prospective partner b. must not exaggerate c. must intend ltoeles (be sure that A will actually take your advice) d. seek alternative methods first
Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Teves 8:4 Rechilus is asur even if the comment ploni made wasnt so bad, ex. When Sarah said, and my husband is old, Hashem didnt repeat that part to Avraham. 8:5 if someone tells you a secret, you may not repeat it, it can damage him and isnt derech tznius.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Teves 8:1 Asur to say Avak rechilus – negative implication (e.g. to tell R how ploni said lets not talk about what R did). 2) Praise that will cause hard feelings is also avak rechilus (e.g. to praise one before his spouse or partner about their charity giving; it will make the other think they’re wasting
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Teves 7:5 Asur to believe rechilus regardless of who is telling it to you, even one’s spouse. The Chofetz Chaim gives some advice; showing your willingness to listen will bring many more such stories, and with them, much heartache.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Teves 7:2 Asur to say rechilus about an am haaretz. About a Talmid Chacham is much worse a)its probably false b)it violates the mitzvah to honor and respect him c)worse ramifications (i.e. can ruin his influence, create a big fight, he will lose his position). Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Teves 7:3 Asur to tell someone that
Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Teves 6:8 Asur to believe rechilus even if it was a casual remark. See Hilchos LH Chap 7:10-14 for all laws of masiach lefi tumo. 6:9 Mutar to believe rechilus if you have circumstantial proof ONLY if a)there’s no way to favorably interpret the evidence b)proof is directly related to the story c) you witnessed it
Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Teves 6:5 Mutar to believe rechilus told to you by a trustworthy person ONLY if the info is crucial & he saw it firsthand. 6:6 Trustworthy means someone who never lies, & you trust him like 2 witnesses for all matters. 6:7 Today, we can’t determine who is trustworthy, so you can’t believe it.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Teves 6:3 If somebody lost a government job or contract, asur to suspect that a Jew informed on you. Even if you hear that ploni informed on you, asur to believe it. Even if ploni is quiet, it doesn’t mean he agrees to accusations. 6:4 Asur to believe rechilus even if many people told it to
Chofetz Chaim Daily 7 Teves 6:1 Asur to believe rechilus even if it was said in the presence of many people. 6:2 Asur to believe rechilus even if said in front of the subject. If he doesn’t protest, it doesn’t mean he agrees to the story. Anyway, why believe someone who’s saying useless info & committing many sins, to ruin
Chofetz Chaim Daily 5 Teves 5:5 The Chofetz Chaim bemoans the widespread practice of people asking others what ploni said about him & ploni’s opinion of him. It is destructive behavior and transgresses many negative commandments. Chofetz Chaim Daily 6 Teves 5:6 If one is sure that ploni spoke about him, but what he said can be understood in 2