July 2014

ChofetzChaimDaily 19 Tamuz 5:5 Saying that someone is weak, can damage him for shidduchim or in getting a job. Asur to say that ploni isnt as rich as thought to be, if it will make it hard for him to get a loan. 5:6 RULE: It depends on who you are talking about; whats positive for one person, might be very negative for another.

ChofetzChaimDaily 12 Tamuz 4:3 By an average Jew, you must assume that what he did was a mistake, or that he didnt know that it was wrong. Even if you saw him do it many times, asur to relate it. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell, because maybe he did teshuva. Rather you should rebuke him privately and nicely.

ChofetzChaimDaily 8 Tamuz 3:3 Asur to degrade someone even if said as a joke. 3:4 Asur to say anonymous story, if the listener will be able to discern who youre saying bad about. Asur to cause a negative impression about somebody, no matter how you accomplish that.

ChofetzChaimDaily 6 Tamuz 2:12 Asur to degrade a speech that someone gave. If you think he should brush up his act, tell him privately. 2:13 If someone related a business idea in front of three people, you may repeat it, because he obviously isnt trying to keep it private.

ChofetzChaimDaily 5 Tamuz 2:11 When a community board holds a private vote e.g. to decide whether or not to rehire the chazzan, the voters must NOT relate their own OR others opinions, even if it was positive, because that will inevitably shift the blame on the other voters.

ChofetzChaimDaily 4 Tamuz 2:9 Heter of Apei Tlasa doesnt allow one to BELIEVE story, add to it, or show you agree to it. See sefer for further elaboration. 2:10 Heter doesnt apply if listener will believe what youre saying. With all its limitations, applying this heter is rare, and many authorities disagree with it anyway.