May 2014

ChofetzChaimDaily New Cycle. 1 Sivan. Introduction. Praised is Hashem who gave us the Torah, and brought us into Eretz Yisrael! Alas at end of Bayis Sheni, sinas chinam and LH forced us into this long and harsh exile. Hashem is ready and able to redeem us, hes just waiting for us to do teshuva.

ChofetzChaimDaily 29 Iyar If your info isnt first hand, then you can still say it IF 1)the listeners know that, and will make more serious inquiries 2)they wont break it off because of you. The Chofetz Chaim concludes his sefer by saying that the main idea is to think before you speak!!

ChofetzChaimDaily 28 Iyar. Conclusion. If you think the in-laws are not really going to support the amount promised, you can say if a) you are positive he wont fulfill (not just because he isnt wealthy) b) its a make it or break it issue for the boy 3)the boy is really all hes made to be, otherwise it cancels out! If they already made the tnaim, you could only say if you know they will act al pi din, and not just break it off.

ChofetzChaimDaily 27 Iyar Conclusion. Serious negativities of a shidduch include: hidden illness, apikorsis and pritzus. Asur to tell about boys lack of Torah knowledge, cuz if they were really concerned, they could have had him tested. Whenever your allowed to speak, u must make sure to fulfill all the conditions in Rechilus Chapter 9:2.

ChofetzChaimDaily 26 Iyar Shidduch Scenario: BE CAREFUL. If you know serious negative info about a potential shidduch, u must tell other side. Chofetz Chaim warns against destructive labeling i.e. to call a temimesdike person not so sharp. Besides ruining potential matches, it degrades being temimesdike. Asur to degrade someone b/c of their parents or ancestry.

ChofetzChaimDaily 25 Iyar in case of partnership, one shouldnt assume that plonis poor financial situation makes him a bad candidate for a partnership. BUT in this and similar scenarios where u yourself may not want him as a partner, you shouldnt recommend him either, that might be bad advice.

ChofetzChaimDaily 23 Iyar 9:13 If buyer will cause seller any unrightful loss, asur to tell him that he was overcharged. The Chofetz Chaim bemoans the common practice of people degrading others purchases when buyer has no claim min hadin, and therefore no toeles. Most often the sayer isnt educated enough to be able to determine correct current value of the item!

ChofetzChaimDaily 22 Iyar 9:11 If buyer already made purchase AND HAS A VALID CLAIM (was cheated more than 1/6 and not too long since purchase), you should tell buyer IF a) dont exaggerate b)intend litoeles* c)try to rebuke seller first d)try alternative method first e)make sure that buyer won’t tell seller your name. *be sure that the buyer is the type to try to recoup his loss, if hell just be upset, then don’t tell him, on the contrary you should lie and praise his purchase!

ChofetzChaimDaily 21 Iyar 9:10 If you see that a store intends to cheat a buyer (overpriced more than 1/6, false scales, selling junk as if its quality), you must warn him to stay away.

ChofetzChaimDaily 20 Iyar 9:7 You may tell someone that ploni stole or damaged him but you must rebuke ploni first and fulfill the 5 conditions(ibid). 9:8 If you may tell, then you must, and if you cant then even if the someone begs you, you must not. 9:9 When you cant tell the subject, you cant tell others either.