Chofetz Chaim Daily 27 Teves. Conclusion. Serious negativities of a shidduch include: hidden illness, apikorsus and pritzus. Asur to tell about a boy’s lack of Torah knowledge. If they are concerned, they could have him tested. Whenever you’re allowed to speak, you must make sure to fulfill all the conditions in Rechilus Chapter 9:2 Chofetz Chaim Daily 28 Teves. Conclusion.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 26 Teves Shidduch Scenario: Be careful. If you know serious negative info about a potential shidduch, you must tell other side. Chofetz Chaim warns against destructive labeling i.e. to call a sincere & simple person “not so sharp”. Besides ruining potential matches, it degrades being sincere. Asur to degrade someone b/c of their parents or ancestors.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 25 Teves In a case of potential partnership, one should not assume that ploni’s poor financial situation makes him a bad candidate for a partnership. BUT in such a scenario, where you may not want him as your partner, you shouldn’t recommend him either. That may be bad advice.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 24 Teves 9:14 If someone suspects YOU of wronging him, and you know who really did it, you may not tell (unless all conditions met). You may say it wasn’t me. 9:15 Ex: You put something aside for buyer. Ploni comes, pays, and takes the item. You do not protest. When original buyer returns with $, you
Chofetz Chaim Daily 22 Teves 9:11 If the buyer already made a purchase and has a valid claim (was cheated more than 1/6 & not too long since purchase), you should tell buyer if you fulfill these conditions: a) don’t exaggerate b)intend litoeles* c)try to rebuke seller first d)try alternative method first e)make sure the buyer won’t tell seller your
Chofetz Chaim Daily 20 Teves 9:7 You may tell someone that ploni stole from him or damaged him. However, you must rebuke ploni first and fulfill the 5 conditions(ibid). 9:8 If you are allowed to tell, you must. If you are not allowed to tell, even if the someone begs you, you must not. 9:9 When you can’t tell to
Today Post is Sponsored L’Refuah Shleima Tehilla Esther bas Leah Bracha Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Teves 9:5,6 One may only tell R about a potentially bad partner if they are not yet partners. If they are already partners, it depends. If R is the type to immediately break the partnership, you may not tell him. If he will just protect himself
Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Teves 9:3 If you know that A is plotting to hurt B, you must tell B provided fulfillment of aforementioned conditions. 9:4 you must be sure that by telling B, he’ll stay away from A, but if he’s type to make preemptive strike on A and make a bigger fight, then you cant tell him.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Teves 9:1 If you know bad things about the person that A wants to enter partnership with, you must tell A, provided that you fulfill these conditions. A. its definitely destructive to prospective partner. B. must not exaggerate C. must intend ltoeles (be sure that A will actually take your advice). D. seek alternative methods first
Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Teves 8:1 Asur to say Avak rechilus – negative implication (e.g. to tell R how ploni said lets not talk about what R did). 2) Praise that will cause hard feelings is also avak rechilus (e.g. to praise one before his spouse or partner about their charity giving; it will make the other think they’re wasting