Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Cheshvan 4:11 One seeking info about a potential shidduch/partner may ask others, and they may say necessary info (See rechilus Chap. 9 for more detail). However you must explain why you are asking so it will be with proper intention. One MAY NOT ask those who do not like the subject. Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Cheshvan 4:12 To repent
Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Cheshvan 4:9 If you see someone has bad middos, you may not badmouth him because he probably doesn’t realize the severity of his actions. Instead, influence him to change. 4:10 You may tell your children or students to stay away from a person with bad middos. However, you must explain why you are telling them.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Cheshvan 4:7 One may publicly degrade the actions of someone who has no fear of G-d and clearly doesn’t regret his sins. He may be shamed until he mends bad ways. Do not judge him favorably. 4:8 If one does not heed command of Beis Din (w/o valid excuse), publicly degrade him and record his
Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Cheshvan 4:5 If the person you saw doing the aveira isn’t wholesome, won’t accept your rebuke & is likely to repeat the sin, you may tell someone who can influence him to repent. If two people saw, they may tell Beis Din to rebuke him. 4:6 You may tell that influencer, even if he may leak
Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Cheshvan 4:1 Asur to degrade someone about his parents’ negative actions or his own past misdeeds. Asur to tell about someone actively doing something wrong bein adam l’Makom. 4:2 Even a slight wrongdoing is asur to report i.e. not keeping a minhag etc. Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Cheshvan 4:3 If you see an average Jew doing
Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Cheshvan 3:5 Asur to say LH in a sneaky fashion, i.e. to pretend you don’t realize that ploni acts this way or that what you’re saying is negative 3:6 Asur to say LH even if you know in advance that it wont cause any harm to the subject. Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Cheshvan 3:7 One must
Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Cheshvan 3:3 Asur to degrade someone even if said as a joke. 3:4 Asur to say anonymous story, if the listener will be able to discern who its about. Asur to cause a negative impression about somebody.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 6 Cheshvan 2:12 Asur to degrade a speech that someone gave. If you think he should brush up his act, tell him privately. 2:13 If someone related a business idea in front of three people, you may repeat it, because he obviously isn’t trying to keep it private. Chofetz Chaim Daily 7 Cheshvan 3:1 Asur to say
Chofetz Chaim Daily 4 Cheshvan 2:9 Heter of Apei Tlasa doesn’t allow one to believe the story, add to it, or show you agree to it. See sefer for further elaboration. 2:10 Heter doesn’t apply if listener will believe what you’re saying. With all its limitations, applying this heter is rare, and many authorities disagree with it anyway. Chofetz Chaim
Chofetz Chaim Daily 2 Cheshvan 2:5 Aforementioned heter doesn’t apply if one of the three people would not relate what was said (i.e. he’s a relative or he’s very scrupulous). 2:6 LH from one city is not considered public knowledge in another city. Chofetz Chaim Daily 3 Cheshvan 2:7 If the speaker told the 3 listeners not to repeat the