Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Adar 5:5 Saying that someone is weak can damage him for shidduchim or getting a job. Asur to say that ploni isn’t as rich as thought to be, if it will make it hard for him to get a loan. 5:6 RULE: It depends who you are talking about. A positive for one person may be
Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Adar 5:2 Asur to tell people that ploni is weak/not smart etc. because this will damage him socially & financially. 5:3 See sefer for more details. 5:4 Worse to say that ploni isn’t such a scholar; e.g. if he’s a Rabbi, it will damage his spiritual influence and livelihood. If he’s a newlywed, it will embarrass
Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Adar 4:11 One seeking info about a potential shidduch/partner may ask others, and they may say necessary info (See rechilus Chap. 9 for more detail). However you must explain why you are asking so it will be with proper intention. One MAY NOT ask those who do not like the subject. Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Adar
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Adar 4:7 One may publicly degrade the actions of someone who has no fear of G-d and clearly doesn’t regret his sins. He may be shamed until he mends bad ways. Do not judge him favorably. ** 4:8 If one does not heed command of Beis Din (w/o valid excuse), publicly degrade him and record his
Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Adar 4:3 If you see an average Jew doing something wrong, even many times, you must assume it was a mistake or that he didn’t know it was wrong. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell. Maybe he did teshuva. Instead you should rebuke him privately and nicely.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Adar 4:1 Asur to degrade someone about his parents’ negative actions or his own past misdeeds. Asur to tell about someone actively doing something wrong bein adam l’Makom. 4:2 Even a slight wrongdoing is asur to report i.e. not keeping a minhag etc.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Adar 3:7 One must judge his fellow favorably as it says Bitzedek tishpot amisecha. Often, not doing so leads to LH (see sefer for more details). 3:8 Even in scenario that one isnt obligated to judge favorably, one still must not relate what he saw, unless all the conditions are met. See chapters 4, 5, &
Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Adar 3:5 Asur to say LH in a sneaky fashion, i.e. to pretend you don’t realize that ploni acts this way or that what you’re saying is negative 3:6 Asur to say LH even if you know in advance that it wont cause any harm to the subject.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 7 Adar 3:1 Asur to say LH both in front of and not in front of the subject. 3:2 Something that can be understood as positive or slightly negative can only be said if you would say it in front of the subject. This indicates the positive intention. Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Adar 3:3 Asur to degrade
Chofetz Chaim Daily 5 Adar 2:11 When a community board holds a private vote e.g. to decide whether or not to rehire the chazzan, the voters must NOT relate their own OR others opinions, even if it was positive, because that will inevitably shift the blame on the other voters. Chofetz Chaim Daily 6 Adar 2:12 Asur to degrade a