Chofetz Chaim Daily 28 Elul. Conclusion. If you think the in-laws aren’t going to support the amount promised, you can tell if a) you are positive b) it is a ‘make it or break it’ issue for the boy 3)the boy is really all he’s made to be. If they already made the t’naim, you may say only if you
Chofetz Chaim Daily 26 Elul Shidduch Scenario: Be careful. If you know serious negative info about a potential shidduch, you must tell other side. Chofetz Chaim warns against destructive labeling i.e. to call a sincere & simple person “not so sharp”. Besides ruining potential matches, it degrades being sincere. Asur to degrade someone b/c of their parents or ancestors. Chofetz
Chofetz Chaim Daily 25 Elul In a case of potential partnership, one should not assume that ploni’s poor financial situation makes him a bad candidate for a partnership. BUT in such a scenario, where you may not want him as your partner, you shouldn’t recommend him either. That may be bad advice.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 24 Elul 9:14 If someone suspects YOU of wronging him, and you know who really did it, you may not tell (unless all conditions met). You may say it wasn’t me. 9:15 Ex: You put something aside for buyer. Ploni comes, pays, and takes the item. You do not protest. When original buyer returns with $, you
Chofetz Chaim Daily 23 Elul 9:13 If the buyer will cause the seller any unrightful loss, it is asur to tell him that he was overcharged. The Chofetz Chaim bemoans the common practice of people degrading other’s purchases. If the buyer has no claim min hadin, there is no toeles. Most often the sayer isn’t educated enough to be able
Chofetz Chaim Daily 21 Elul 9:10 If you see that a store intends to cheat a customer, (overpriced more than 1/6, uses false scales, pretends junk is quality), you must warn the customer to stay away. Chofetz Chaim Daily 22 Elul 9:11 If the buyer already made a purchase and has a valid claim (was cheated more than 1/6 &
Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Elul 9:5,6 One may only tell R about a potentially bad partner if they are not yet partners. If they are already partners, it depends. If R is the type to immediately break the partnership, you may not tell him. If he will just protect himself from losses, you may Chofetz Chaim Daily 20 Elul 9:7
Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Elul 9:3 If you know that A is plotting to hurt B, you must tell B provided fulfillment of aforementioned conditions. 9:4 you must be sure that by telling B, he’ll stay away from A, but if he’s type to make preemptive strike on A and make a bigger fight, then you cant tell him.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Elul 9:1 If you know bad things about the person that A wants to enter partnership with, you must tell A, provided that you fulfill these conditions a. its definitely destructive to prospective partner b. must not exaggerate c. must intend ltoeles (be sure that A will actually take your advice) d. seek alternative methods first
Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Elul 8:4 Rechilus is asur even if the comment ploni made wasnt so bad, ex. When Sarah said, and my husband is old, Hashem didnt repeat that part to Avraham. 8:5 if someone tells you a secret, you may not repeat it, it can damage him and isnt derech tznius.