Chofetz Chaim Daily 21 Av 10:15 One must prepare what he’s going to say in advance, to ensure it meets the 7 conditions. In the heat of the moment he may say too much. 10:16 If you heard that someone said LH about you, asur to say LH about him, because 1)Maybe it’s false 2)invalid toeles. Chofetz Chaim Daily 22
Chofetz Chaim Daily 20 Av 10:13 You may tell others about the loss ploni caused, IF they can help you rectify it. Likewise, you may relate how ploni insulted you etc. if will help prevent it from happening again. 10:14 However one must be careful not to violate any of the 7 conditions.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Av 10:11 If you yourself was the one that was hurt, it is asur to spread because intention isn’t l’toeles. 10:12 It’s a bigger sin to spread if he didn’t even hurt you, just didn’t do you a favor that you expected.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Av 10:9 If people won’t suspect the speaker of going behind the subject’s back (eg. tzadik), then it doesn’t need to be said in front of 3 people. 10:10 Relating someone’s wrongdoing bein adam laMakom is only mutar if it’s a known aveira and you’ve seen him do it many times b’mazid.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Av 10:5 Mutar to defame someone who spoke LH BUT only if the subject is aware of it. Otherwise it will lead to rechilus. 10:6 Even if the subject isn’t aware, mutar if it will create a preemptive benefit. Now people won’t believe the LH rumor that the speaker is trying to spread. Chofetz Chaim Daily
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Av 10:1 Mutar to spread the injustice that ploni caused your friend IF it will help to right a wrong, or defame wrongdoers. 10:2 However you must fulfill 7 conditions: 1. absolutely factual 2. certain who the real villain is 3. rebuke perpetrator first 4. must not inflate crime 5. L’toeles & no personal benefit 6.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Av 9:5 Mitzvah to restrain even your young children from LH so they’ll get into the habit. 9:6 Asur to repeat private matters heard from a friend.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Av 9:3 Asur to relate praise that may cause damage. Eg. Telling that ploni hosted you or lent you money, etc. This can cause ploni harm bc others will now demand the same. Asur to say something that can be mistaken for LH. 9:4 Asur to live among baalei LH. Asur to listen even if not
Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Av 9:1 Asur to speak AVAK LH which is a negative inference e.g. “who would think ploni would end up so good?”, “its better we dont talk about ploni” Praising ploni in presence of an enemy or excessive praise to any listener is also avak LH. 9:2 All praise is asur in public, except about universally
Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Av 8:12 Asur to speak LH to a Jew. To a non-Jew is much worse because it causes a chilul Hashem. As well, the non-Jew will definitely believe it and cause the Jew great damage. Even more terrible is informing on a Jew to authorities. This is equal to apikorsus and great punishment awaits. Chofetz Chaim