Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Adar I 5:5 Saying that someone is weak can damage him for shidduchim or getting a job. Asur to say that ploni isn’t as rich as thought to be, if it will make it hard for him to get a loan. 5:6 RULE: It depends who you are talking about. Positive for one person may be
Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Adar I 5:2 Asur to tell people that ploni is weak or not smart etc. because this will damage him socially and financially. 5:3 See sefer for more details. 5:4 Worse to say that ploni isnt such a scholar; e.g. if hes a Rabbi, it will damage his spiritual influence and livelihood. If hes a newlywed,
Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Adar I 4:12 To repent for LH, one must ask subject mechila (only if he was hurt; socially, emotionally, etc.) It is impossible for a habitual LH speaker to ask mechila from everyone he pained. 5:1 If you see someone doing sins bein adam l’chaveiro, (ex. not lending money that he could afford) you must not
Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Adar I 4:11 One seeking info about a potential shidduch/partner may ask others, and they may say necessary info (See rechilus Chap. 9 for more detail). However you must explain why you are asking so it will be with proper intention. One MAY NOT ask those who do not like the subject.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Adar I 4:9 If you see someone has bad middos, you must not badmouth him because he probably doesnt realize the severity of his actions, rather you should influence him to change. 4:10 You may tell your children or students to stay away from person with bad middos. However, you must explain why you are telling
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Adar I 4:7 One may publicly degrade the actions of someone who has no fear of G-d and clearly doesn’t regret his sins. He may be shamed until he mends bad ways. Do not judge him favorably. 4:8 If one does not heed command of Beis Din (w/o valid excuse), publicly degrade him and record his
Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Adar I 4:5 If the person you saw doing the aveira isn’t wholesome, won’t accept your rebuke & is likely to repeat the sin, you may tell someone who can influence him to repent. If two people saw, they may tell Beis Din to rebuke him. 4:6 You may tell that influencer, even if he may
Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Adar I 4:3 If you see an average Jew doing something wrong, even many times, you must assume it was a mistake or that he didn’t know it was wrong. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell. Maybe he did teshuva. Instead you should rebuke him privately and
Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Adar I 4:1 Asur to degrade someone about their parents negative actions, or their own past misdeeds. Even if someone is actively doing something wrong bein adam laMakom, asur to tell anyone about it. 4:2 Asur even if its a slight wrongdoing i.e. not keeping a minhag etc.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Adar I 3:7 One is obligated to judge his fellow favorably as it says, Bitzedek tishpot amisecha, often, not doing so leads to LH (see sefer for more detail). 3:8 Even in scenario that one isnt obligated to judge favorably, one still must not relate what he saw, unless all the conditions are met. See chapters