Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Teves 9:1 If you know bad things about the ploni that R wants to enter partnership with, you must tell R, provided that you fulfill these conditions A. its definitely destructive to partner B. must not exaggerate C. must intend ltoeles (be sure that R will actually take your advice) D. seek alternative methods first E.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Teves 8:4 Rechilus is asur even if the comment ploni made wasnt so bad, ex. When Sarah said, and my husband is old, Hashem didnt repeat that part to Avraham. 8:5 if someone tells you a secret, you may not repeat it, it can damage him and isnt derech tznius.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Teves 8:1 Asur to say Avak rechilus – negative implication (e.g. to tell R how ploni said lets not talk about what R did). 8:2. Praise that will cause hard feelings is also avak rechilus (e.g. to praise one before his spouse or partner about their charity giving; it will make the other think their wasting
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Teves 7:5 Asur to believe rechilus regardless of whos telling it to you, even ones spouse. The ChofetzChaim gives some advice; showing your willingness to listen, will bring many more such stories and with them much heartache.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Teves 7:3 Asur to tell someone how ploni badmouthed him, likewise asur to tell that someones wife and relatives because theyll get upset at ploni. 7:4 Much worse to say rechilus to a non-Jew about a Jew, because he may harm the Jew. Also asur to denigrate product or service that Jew provided for non-Jew.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Teves 7:2 Asur to say rechilus on an am haaretz. On a Talmid Chacham is much worse a)its probably false b)it violates mitzvah to honor and respect them c)much worse ramifications (i.e. can ruin his influence, create big fight, he will lose his position).
Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Teves 7:1 Laws of rechilus apply to all Jews, and no difference if subject is a man, woman or child. Chofetz Chaim warns against telling a parent that another child hit his son because it can cause a big feud (unless all conditions have been met, will be discussed later).
Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Teves 6:8 Asur to believe rechilus even if it was a casual remark. See Hilchos LH chapter seven 10-14 for all laws of masiach lefi tumo. 6:9 Mutar to believe rechilus if you have circumstancial proof ONLY if a)theres no way to favorably interpret the evidence b)proof is directly related to rechilus story c)you yourself witnessed
Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Teves 6:5 Mutar to believe rechilus told to you by a trustworthy person ONLY if the info is crucial and he saw it firsthand. 6:6 Trustworthy means someone who never lies, and you trust him like two witnesses, for all matters. 6:7 Nowadays we cant determine who is trustworthy, so you cant believe it.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Teves 6:3 If somebody lost a government job or contract, asur to suspect any Jew that he informed on you. Even if you hear that ploni informed on you, asur to believe it. Even if ploni is quiet, it doesnt mean he agrees to accusations. 6:4 Asur to believe rechilus even if many people told it