ChofetzChaimDaily 20 Kislev 10:13 You may tell others about the loss ploni caused, IF they can help you rectify it. Likewise you may relate how ploni insulted you etc. if will help prevent it from happening again. 10:14 However one must be careful not to violate any of the 7 conditions.
ChofetzChaimDaily 19 Kislev 10:11 If you yourself was the one that was hurt, asur to spread it because your intention isnt litoeles. 10:12 Its a bigger sin to spread it if he didnt even hurt you, but he just didnt do a favor that you expected of him.
ChofetzChaimDaily 18 Kislev 10:9 If people wont suspect the speaker of going behind the subjects back (i.e. tzadik) then you dont need to say it in front of 3 people. 10:10 Relating someones wrongdoing bein adam laMakom is only mutar if its a known aveira and youve seen him do it many times bmazid.
ChofetzChaimDaily 17 Kislev 10:7 You dont have to rebuke the perpetrator (third condition ibid) if youre sure he wont accept it. But then you must spread to at least three people at a time, so they wont think youre going behind his back. 10:8 If the perpetrator is dangerous, then you may say it to less than three people.
ChofetzChaimDaily 16 Kislev 10:5 Mutar to defame someone who spoke LH, only if the subject is aware of it, otherwise it will lead to rechilus. 10:6 Even if the subject isnt aware, mutar if it will create a preemptive benefit, that now people wont believe the LH rumor that the speaker is trying to spread.
ChofetzChaimDaily 15 Kislev 10:3 Continued from yesterday. Only mutar if speaker himself isnt guilty of the same crime. 10:4 Litoeles can also be just to defame sinners. Asur to tell people that dont think it was wrong, it will bring to rechilus. In scenarios that its mutar, its a mitzvah to say. If asur, asur period.
ChofetzChaimDaily 14 Kislev 10:1 Mutar to spread the injustice that ploni caused your friend IF it will help to right the wrong, or at least defame wrongdoers. 10:2 However you must fulfill 7 conditions: 1. absolutely factual 2. youre certain who the real villain is 3. rebuke perpetrator first 4. must not inflate crime 5. Litoeles & not for personal
ChofetzChaimDaily 12 Kislev 9:3 Asur to relate damage causing praise, ex: telling how ploni did a favor in hosting you, or lending you money, etc. This can cause ploni harm since others will now demand the same. Asur to say something that can be mistaken for LH. 9:4 Asur to live among baalei LH. Asur to listen even if not
ChofetzChaimDaily 11 Kislev 9:1 Asur to speak AVAK LH which means a negative inference e.g. to say: 1. who would think ploni would end up so good 2. its better we dont talk about ploni or 3. praising ploni in presence of an enemy, or excessive praise to any listener. 9:2 All praise is asur in public, except about universally
ChofetzChaimDaily 10 Kislev 8:13 Asur for anyone to BELIEVE LH regardless of who the subject is, except for apikores and informers etc. 8:14 Likewise doesnt matter who its being heard from, even parents and family members. One is responsible for the behaviors his household and should therefore restrain them from LH and set a positive example.