ChofetzChaimDaily 23 Av Richilus 1:1 One who says rechilus transgresses Lo selech rachil biamecha and many other + and – commandments. 1:2 Rechilus is: Telling someone that ploni wronged or said bad about him. Asur even if ploni wont deny it. 1:3 Rechilus is asur even if youre not intending to create hard feelings. Asur even if you think ploni
ChofetzChaimDaily 22 Av 10:17 If someone suspects you of wrongdoing, asur to say who did it, just say I didnt do it (except when you must say i.e. 7 conditions have been met). Its befitting of a special person to accept the blame to save the perpetrator from shame. This concludes Part 1 Hilchos LH. Part 2 Hilchos Rechilus.
ChofetzChaimDaily 19 Tamuz 5:5 Saying that someone is weak, can damage him for shidduchim or in getting a job. Asur to say that ploni isnt as rich as thought to be, if it will make it hard for him to get a loan. 5:6 RULE: It depends on who you are talking about; whats positive for one person, might be
ChofetzChaimDaily 12 Tamuz 4:3 By an average Jew, you must assume that what he did was a mistake, or that he didnt know that it was wrong. Even if you saw him do it many times, asur to relate it. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell, because maybe he did teshuva.
ChofetzChaimDaily 8 Tamuz 3:3 Asur to degrade someone even if said as a joke. 3:4 Asur to say anonymous story, if the listener will be able to discern who youre saying bad about. Asur to cause a negative impression about somebody, no matter how you accomplish that.
ChofetzChaimDaily 6 Tamuz 2:12 Asur to degrade a speech that someone gave. If you think he should brush up his act, tell him privately. 2:13 If someone related a business idea in front of three people, you may repeat it, because he obviously isnt trying to keep it private.
ChofetzChaimDaily 5 Tamuz 2:11 When a community board holds a private vote e.g. to decide whether or not to rehire the chazzan, the voters must NOT relate their own OR others opinions, even if it was positive, because that will inevitably shift the blame on the other voters.
ChofetzChaimDaily 4 Tamuz 2:9 Heter of Apei Tlasa doesnt allow one to BELIEVE story, add to it, or show you agree to it. See sefer for further elaboration. 2:10 Heter doesnt apply if listener will believe what youre saying. With all its limitations, applying this heter is rare, and many authorities disagree with it anyway.
ChofetzChaimDaily 2 Tamuz 2:5 The aforementioned heater doesnt apply if one of the three people in the group is not the type to relate what was said (i.e. hes related to the subject or hes the very scrupulous type). 2:6 Also only applies within that city, we dont consider it public knowledge in another city.
ChofetzChaimDaily 29 Sivan 1:8 Asur to write or hint LH. 1:9 Asur even if one degrades himself at the same time.