Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Nissan 10:5 Mutar to defame someone who spoke LH BUT only if the subject is aware of it. Otherwise it will lead to rechilus. 10:6 Even if the subject isn’t aware, mutar if it will create a preemptive benefit. Now people won’t believe the LH rumor that the speaker is trying to spread.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Nissan 10:7 You don’t have to rebuke the perpetrator (third condition ibid) if you’re sure he won’t accept it. But then you must spread to at least 3 people at a time, so they won’t think you’re going behind his back. 10:8 If the perpetrator is dangerous, then you may say it to less than 3 people.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Nissan 10:9 If people won’t suspect the speaker of going behind the subject’s back (eg. tzadik), then it doesn’t need to be said in front of 3 people. 10:10 Relating someone’s wrongdoing bein adam laMakom is only mutar if it’s a known aveira and you’ve seen him do it many times b’mazid, unless he is a Tinok Shenishba (someone who didn’t have adequate Jewish education or stable youth)
Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Nissan 10:11 If you yourself was the one that was hurt, it is asur to spread because intention isn’t l’toeles. 10:12 It’s a bigger sin to spread if he didn’t even hurt you, just didn’t do you a favor that you expected.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 20 Nissan 10:13 You may tell others about the loss ploni caused, IF they can help you rectify it. Likewise, you may relate how ploni insulted you etc. if will help prevent it from happening again. 10:14 However one must be careful not to violate any of the 7 conditions.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 21 Nissan 10:15 One must prepare what he’s going to say in advance, to ensure it meets the 7 conditions. In the heat of the moment he may say too much. 10:16 If you heard that someone said LH about you, asur to say LH about him, because 1)Maybe it’s false 2)invalid toeles.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 22 Nissan 10:17 If someone suspects you of wrongdoing, asur to say who did it. Say I didn’t do it (except when you must say – 7 conditions have been met). It’s befitting of a special person to accept the blame to save the perpetrator from shame. This concludes Part 1 Hilchos LH. Part 2 Hilchos Rechilus.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 23 Nissan Rechilus 1:1 One who says rechilus transgresses: Lo selech rachil b’amecha, and many other positive & negative commandments. 1:2 Rechilus is: Telling someone that ploni wronged or said bad about him. Asur even if ploni won’t deny it. 1:3 Rechilus is asur even if you’re not intending to create hard feelings. Asur even if you think ploni was right.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 24 Nissan 1:4 Rechilus is asur even if it’s 100% true. Asur even if they already hated each other. It is a terrible sin if you create the hard feelings. 1:5 Asur even if you’re pressured to tell the info, or even if it’s your parent or Rabbi asking.
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