November 2016

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Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Cheshvan

Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Cheshvan 4:9 If you see someone has bad middos, you may not badmouth him because he probably doesn’t realize the severity of his actions. Instead, influence him to change. 4:10 You may tell your children or students to stay away from a person with bad middos. However, you must explain why you are telling them.

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Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Cheshvan

Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Cheshvan 4:7 One may publicly degrade the actions of someone who has no fear of G-d and clearly doesn’t regret his sins. He may be shamed until he mends bad ways. Do not judge him favorably. 4:8 If one does not heed command of Beis Din (w/o valid excuse), publicly degrade him and record his actions in public records.

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Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Cheshvan

Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Cheshvan 4:5 If the person you saw doing the aveira isn’t wholesome, won’t accept your rebuke & is likely to repeat the sin, you may tell someone who can influence him to repent. If two people saw, they may tell Beis Din to rebuke him. 4:6 You may tell that influencer, even if he may leak info to others.

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Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 10-12 Cheshvan

Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Cheshvan 3:7 One must judge his fellow favorably as it says Bitzedek tishpot amisecha. Often, not doing so leads to LH (see sefer for more details). 3:8 Even in scenario that one isnt obligated to judge favorably, one still must not relate what he saw, unless all the conditions are met. See chapters 4, 5, & 10.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Cheshvan 4:1 Asur to degrade someone about his parents’ negative actions or his own past misdeeds. Asur to tell about someone actively doing something wrong bein adam l’Makom. 4:2 Even a slight wrongdoing is asur to report i.e. not keeping a minhag etc.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Cheshvan 4:3 If you see an average Jew doing something wrong, even many times, you must assume it was a mistake or that he didn’t know it was wrong. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell. Maybe he did teshuva. Instead you should rebuke him privately and nicely.

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Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Cheshvan

Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Cheshvan 3:5 Asur to say LH in a sneaky fashion, i.e. to pretend you don’t realize that ploni acts this way or that what you’re saying is negative 3:6 Asur to say LH even if you know in advance that it wont cause any harm to the subject.

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Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Cheshvan

Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Cheshvan 3:3 Asur to degrade someone even if said as a joke. 3:4 Asur to say anonymous story, if the listener will be able to discern who its about. Asur to cause a negative impression about somebody.

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Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 7 Cheshvan

Chofetz Chaim Daily 7 Cheshvan 3:1 Asur to say LH both in front of and not in front of the subject. 3:2 Something that can be understood as positive or slightly negative can only be said if you would say it in front of the subject. This indicates the positive intention.