January 2015

Chofetz Chaim Daily 20 Teves 9:7 You may tell someone that ploni stole or damaged him but you must rebuke ploni first and fulfill the 5 conditions(ibid). 9:8 If you may tell, then you must, and if you cant then even if the someone begs you, you must not. 9:9 When you cant tell the subject, you cant tell others

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Teves 9:5,6 When you are allowed to tell R about a potentially bad partner, thats only if theyre not yet partners, if theyre already partners it depends; if R is the type to immediately break the partnership, then you cant tell him. If he will just protect himself from losses then its ok.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Teves 9:3 If you know that R is plotting to hurt S, you must tell S provided fulfillment of aforementioned conditions. 4) you must be sure that by telling S, hell stay away from R, but if hes type to make preemptive strike on R and make a bigger fight, then you cant tell him.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Teves 9:1 If you know bad things about the ploni that R wants to enter partnership with, you must tell R, provided that you fulfill these conditions A. its definitely destructive to partner B. must not exaggerate C. must intend ltoeles (be sure that R will actually take your advice) D. seek alternative methods first E.

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Teves 8:4 Rechilus is asur even if the comment ploni made wasnt so bad, ex. When Sarah said, and my husband is old, Hashem didnt repeat that part to Avraham. 8:5 if someone tells you a secret, you may not repeat it, it can damage him and isnt derech tznius.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Teves 8:1 Asur to say Avak rechilus – negative implication (e.g. to tell R how ploni said lets not talk about what R did). 8:2. Praise that will cause hard feelings is also avak rechilus (e.g. to praise one before his spouse or partner about their charity giving; it will make the other think their wasting

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Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Teves 7:5 Asur to believe rechilus regardless of whos telling it to you, even ones spouse. The ChofetzChaim gives some advice; showing your willingness to listen, will bring many more such stories and with them much heartache.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Teves 7:3 Asur to tell someone how ploni badmouthed him, likewise asur to tell that someones wife and relatives because theyll get upset at ploni. 7:4 Much worse to say rechilus to a non-Jew about a Jew, because he may harm the Jew. Also asur to denigrate product or service that Jew provided for non-Jew.

Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Teves 7:2 Asur to say rechilus on an am haaretz. On a Talmid Chacham is much worse a)its probably false b)it violates mitzvah to honor and respect them c)much worse ramifications (i.e. can ruin his influence, create big fight, he will lose his position).

Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Teves 7:1 Laws of rechilus apply to all Jews, and no difference if subject is a man, woman or child. Chofetz Chaim warns against telling a parent that another child hit his son because it can cause a big feud (unless all conditions have been met, will be discussed later).