Chofetz Chaim Daily 26 Teves Shidduch Scenario: Be careful. If you know serious negative info about a potential shidduch, you must tell other side. Chofetz Chaim warns against destructive labeling i.e. to call a sincere & simple person “not so sharp”. Besides ruining potential matches, it degrades being sincere. Asur to degrade someone b/c of their parents or ancestors.Chofetz Chaim
Chofetz Chaim Daily 24 Teves 9:14 If someone suspects YOU of wronging him, and you know who really did it, you may not tell (unless all conditions met). You may say it wasn’t me. 9:15 Ex: You put something aside for buyer. Ploni comes, pays, and takes the item. You do not protest. When original buyer returns with $, you
Chofetz Chaim Daily 23 Teves 9:13 If the buyer will cause the seller any unrightful loss, it is asur to tell him that he was overcharged. The Chofetz Chaim bemoans the common practice of people degrading other’s purchases. If the buyer has no claim min hadin, there is no toeles. Most often the sayer isn’t educated enough to be able
Chofetz Chaim Daily 21 Teves 9:10 If you see that a store intends to cheat a customer, (overpriced more than 1/6, uses false scales, pretends junk is quality), you must warn the customer to stay away. Chofetz Chaim Daily 22 Teves 9:11 If the buyer already made a purchase and has a valid claim (was cheated more than 1/6 &
Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Teves 9:5,6 One may only tell R about a potentially bad partner if they are not yet partners. If they are already partners, it depends. If R is the type to immediately break the partnership, you may not tell him. If he will just protect himself from losses, you may Chofetz Chaim Daily 20 Teves 9:7
Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Teves 9:3 If you know that A is plotting to hurt B, you must tell B provided fulfillment of aforementioned conditions. 9:4 you must be sure that by telling B, he’ll stay away from A, but if he’s type to make preemptive strike on A and make a bigger fight, then you cant tell him.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Teves 9:1 If you know bad things about the person that A wants to enter partnership with, you must tell A, provided that you fulfill these conditions a. its definitely destructive to prospective partner b. must not exaggerate c. must intend ltoeles (be sure that A will actually take your advice) d. seek alternative methods first
Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Teves 8:4 Rechilus is asur even if the comment ploni made wasnt so bad, ex. When Sarah said, and my husband is old, Hashem didnt repeat that part to Avraham. 8:5 if someone tells you a secret, you may not repeat it, it can damage him and isnt derech tznius.
Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Teves 7:5 Asur to believe rechilus regardless of who is telling it to you, even one’s spouse. The Chofetz Chaim gives some advice; showing your willingness to listen will bring many more such stories, and with them, much heartache. Chofetz Chaim Daily 15 Teves 8:1 Asur to say Avak rechilus – negative implication (e.g. to tell
Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Teves 7:2 Asur to say rechilus about an am haaretz. About a Talmid Chacham is much worse a)its probably false b)it violates the mitzvah to honor and respect him c)worse ramifications (i.e. can ruin his influence, create a big fight, he will lose his position). Chofetz Chaim Daily 13 Teves 7:3 Asur to tell someone that ploni