Tzvi Arnstein

11
Dec

Chofetz Chaim Daily 23 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 23 Kislev Rechilus 1:1 One who says rechilus transgresses: Lo selech rachil b’amecha, and many other positive & negative commandments. 1:2 Rechilus is: Telling someone that ploni wronged or said bad about him. Asur even if ploni won’t deny it. 1:3 Rechilus is asur even if you’re not intending to create hard feelings. Asur even if you

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10
Dec

Chofetz Chaim Daily 21-22 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 21 Kislev 10:15 One must prepare what he’s going to say in advance, to ensure it meets the 7 conditions. In the heat of the moment he may say too much. 10:16 If you heard that someone said LH about you, asur to say LH about him, because 1)Maybe it’s false 2)invalid toeles. Chofetz Chaim Daily 22

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7
Dec

Chofetz Chaim Daily 19-20 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 19 Kislev 10:11 If you yourself was the one that was hurt, it is asur to spread because intention isn’t l’toeles. 10:12 It’s a bigger sin to spread if he didn’t even hurt you, just didn’t do you a favor that you expected. Chofetz Chaim Daily 20 Kislev 10:13 You may tell others about the loss ploni

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6
Dec

Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Kislev 10:9 If people won’t suspect the speaker of going behind the subject’s back (eg. a tzadik), then it doesn’t need to be said in front of 3 people. 10:10 Relating someone’s wrongdoing bein adam laMakom is only mutar if it’s a known aveira and you’ve seen him do it many times b’mazid,unless he is a

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5
Dec

Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Kislev 10:7 You don’t have to rebuke the perpetrator (third condition ibid) if you’re sure he won’t accept it. But then you must spread to at least 3 people at a time, so they won’t think you’re going behind his back. 10:8 If the perpetrator is dangerous, then you may say it to less than 3

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4
Dec

Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Kislev 10:5 Mutar to defame someone who spoke LH BUT only if the subject is aware of it. Otherwise it will lead to rechilus. 10:6 Even if the subject isn’t aware, mutar if it will create a preemptive benefit. Now people won’t believe the LH rumor that the speaker is trying to spread.

3
Dec

Chofetz Chaim Daily 14-15 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 14 Kislev 10:1 Mutar to spread the injustice that ploni caused your friend IF it will help to right a wrong, or defame wrongdoers. 10:2 However you must fulfill 7 conditions: 1. absolutely factual 2. certain who the real villain is 3. rebuke perpetrator first 4. must not inflate crime 5. L’toeles & no personal benefit 6.

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30
Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 12-13 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Kislev 9:3 Asur to relate praise that may cause damage. Eg. Telling that ploni hosted you or lent you money, etc. This can cause ploni harm bc others will now demand the same. Asur to say something that can be mistaken for LH. 9:4 Asur to live among baalei LH. Asur to listen even if not

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29
Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Kislev 9:1 Asur to speak AVAK LH which is a negative inference eg. “who would think ploni would end up so good?”, “its better we dont talk about ploni” Praising ploni in presence of an enemy or excessive praise to any listener is also avak LH. 9:2 All praise is asur in public, except about universally

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28
Nov

Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Kislev

Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Kislev 8:13 Asur for anyone to BELIEVE LH regardless of who the subject is, except for apikores & informers etc. 8:14 Likewise, it doesn’t matter who its heard from, even parents and family members. One is responsible for the behaviors of his household. He should therefore restrain them from LH and set a positive example.