March 2017

16
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 18 Adar 5:2 Asur to tell people that ploni is weak/not smart etc. because this will damage him socially & financially. 5:3 See sefer for more details. 5:4 Worse to say that ploni isn’t such a scholar; e.g. if he’s a Rabbi, it will damage his spiritual influence and livelihood. If he’s a newlywed, it will embarrass

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15
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 17 Adar 4:12 To repent for LH, one must ask subject mechila (only if he was hurt; socially, emotionally, etc.) It is impossible for a habitual LH speaker to ask mechila from everyone he pained. 5:1 If you see someone doing sins bein adam l’chaveiro, (ex. not lending money that he could afford) you must not tell

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14
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 16 Adar 4:11 One seeking info about a potential shidduch/partner may ask others, and they may say necessary info (See rechilus Chap. 9 for more detail). However you must explain why you are asking so it will be with proper intention. One MAY NOT ask those who do not like the subject.

13
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 12-15 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 12 Adar 4:3 If you see an average Jew doing something wrong, even many times, you must assume it was a mistake or that he didn’t know it was wrong. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell. Maybe he did teshuva. Instead you should rebuke him privately and nicely.

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9
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 11 Adar 4:1 Asur to degrade someone about his parents’ negative actions or his own past misdeeds. Asur to tell about someone actively doing something wrong bein adam l’Makom. 4:2 Even a slight wrongdoing is asur to report i.e. not keeping a minhag etc.

8
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 10 Adar 3:7 One must judge his fellow favorably as it says Bitzedek tishpot amisecha. Often, not doing so leads to LH (see sefer for more details). 3:8 Even in scenario that one isnt obligated to judge favorably, one still must not relate what he saw, unless all the conditions are met. See chapters 4, 5, &

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7
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 8-9 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 8 Adar 3:3 Asur to degrade someone even if said as a joke. 3:4 Asur to say anonymous story, if the listener will be able to discern who its about. Asur to cause a negative impression about somebody. Chofetz Chaim Daily 9 Adar 3:5 Asur to say LH in a sneaky fashion, i.e. to pretend you don’t

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5
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 5-7 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 5 Adar 2:11 When a community board holds a private vote e.g. to decide whether or not to rehire the chazzan, the voters must NOT relate their own OR others opinions, even if it was positive, because that will inevitably shift the blame on the other voters. Chofetz Chaim Daily 6 Adar 2:12 Asur to degrade a

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2
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 4 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 4 Adar 2:9 Heter of Apei Tlasa doesn’t allow one to believe the story, add to it, or show you agree to it. See sefer for further elaboration. 2:10 Heter doesn’t apply if listener will believe what you’re saying. With all its limitations, applying this heter is rare, and many authorities disagree with it anyway.

1
Mar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 3 Adar

Chofetz Chaim Daily 3 Adar 2:7 If the speaker told the 3 listeners not to repeat the story, then one can’t repeat it, even if other 2 didn’t obey. 2:8 No matter what wording he used to tell listeners not to repeat, you must not. Heter of apei t’lasa doesn’t apply if 2 people said LH to 2 others.