March 2014

10
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 8 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 8 Adar 3:3 Asur to degrade someone even if said as a joke. 3:4 Asur to say anonymous story, if the listener will be able to discern who youre saying bad about. Asur to cause a negative impression about somebody, no matter how you accomplish that.

9
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 7 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 7 Adar 3:1 Asur to say LH NOT in front of the subject, and in his presence is worse because it will cause a fight. 3:2 Mutar to say something that can be understood as positive or slightly negative, IF you know that you would say it in front of the subject, because if so, your method of speech

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8
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 6 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 6 Adar 2:12 Asur to degrade a speech that someone gave. If you think he should brush up his act, tell him privately. 2:13 If someone related a business idea in front of three people, you may repeat it, because he obviously isnt trying to keep it private.

7
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 5 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 5 Adar 2:11 When a community board holds a private vote e.g. to decide whether or not to rehire the chazzan, the voters must NOT relate their own OR others opinions, even if it was positive, because that will inevitably shift the blame on the other voters.

6
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 4 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 4 Adar 2:9 Heter of Apei Tlasa doesnt allow one to BELIEVE story, add to it, or show you agree to it. See sefer for further elaboration. 2:10 Heter doesnt apply if listener will believe what youre saying. With all its limitations, applying this heter is rare, and many authorities disagree with it anyway.

5
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 3 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 3 Adar 2:7 If the speaker told his three listeners not to repeat the story, then one cant repeat it, even if the two others didnt obey and repeated. 2:8 No matter what wording he used to tell listeners not to repeat it, you must not. Heter of apei tlasa doesnt apply if two said LH to two.

4
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 2 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 2 Adar 2:5 Aforementioned heter doesnt apply if one of the three people in the group is not the type to relate what was said (i.e. hes relative of subject or hes very scrupulous). 2:6 Also only applies within that city, we dont consider it public knowledge in another city.

3
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 1 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 1 Adar 2:3 If one was in group of three that heard LH, SOME say that he may repeat the story, because we assume that its now public knowledge. However, even this view only allows random repeating, not to intend to spread story. 2:4 Applies only to those who heard in group of three. (except if e/o already knows).

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2
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 30 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 30 Adar 7:7 Asur to believe LH even if the speaker is trustworthy as two witnesses. 7:8 When its mutar to tell people that ploni is a bad person, so theyll stay away from him; the people may believe it, IF the speaker witnessed it first hand. However one mustnt relate it to others. 7:9 Asur to believe LH

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1
Mar

ChofetzChaimdaily 29 Adar

ChofetzChaimdaily 29 Adar 7:5 Mutar to believe LH on someone who is known to constantly transgress serious sins. 7:6 If someone degrades himself and another, you may believe it about himself but not the other.