March 2014

20
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 18 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 18 Adar 5:2 Asur to tell people that ploni is weak or not smart etc. because this will damage him socially and financially. 5:3 See sefer for more details. 5:4 Worse to say that ploni isnt such a scholar; e.g. if hes a Rabbi, it will damage his spiritual influence and livelihood. If hes a newlywed, it will embarrass

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19
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 17 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 17 Adar 4:12 To repent for LH one must ask subject mechila (only if he was hurt; socially, emotionally, etc.) Its impossible for a habitual LH speaker to ask mechila from everyone he pained. 5:1 If you see someone doing sin bein adam lachaveiro, (ex. Not lending money that he could afford) you must not tell anyone.

18
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 16 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 16 Adar 4:11 One seeking info about potential shidduch or partner may ask others, and they may say necessary info (See rechilus Chap. 9 for more detail). However you must tell the why you are asking to they will have proper intentions. One MAY NOT ask those who dont like the subject.

17
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 15 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 15 Adar 4:9 If you see someone has bad middos, you must not badmouth him because he probably doesnt realize the severity of his actions, rather you should influence him to change. 4:10 You may tell your children or students to stay away from person with bad middos. However, you must explain why you are telling them.

17
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 14 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 14 Adar 4:7 Someone who has no fear of G-d and you see that he doesnt regret his sins, you may publicly degrade his actions and shame him until he mends bad ways, you also dont judge him favorably. 4:8 If one doesnt heed command of Beis Din (w/o valid excuse) you publicly degrade him and record his actions

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17
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 13 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 13 Adar 4:5 If the person you saw doing the aveira isnt wholesome and wont accept your rebuke, and hes likely to repeat the sin, you may tell someone who can influence him to repent. If two people saw, then they may tell Beis Din to rebuke him. 4:6 You may tell that person even if he may leak

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14
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 12 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 12 Adar 4:3 By an average Jew, you must assume that what he did was a mistake, or that he didnt know that it was wrong. Even if you saw him do it many times, asur to relate it. 4:4 Even if one is sure that subject KNEW it was wrong, asur to tell, because maybe he did teshuva.

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13
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 11 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 11 Adar 4:1 Asur to degrade someone about their parents negative actions, or their own past misdeeds. Even if someone is actively doing something wrong bein adam laMakom, asur to tell anyone about it. 4:2 Asur even if its a slight wrongdoing i.e. not keeping a minhag etc.

12
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 10 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 10 Adar 3:7 One is obligated to judge his fellow favorably as it says, Bitzedek tishpot amisecha, often, not doing so leads to LH (see sefer for more detail). 3:8 Even in scenario that one isnt obligated to judge favorably, one still must not relate what he saw, unless all the conditions are met. See chapters 4, 5, &

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11
Mar

ChofetzChaimDaily 9 Adar

ChofetzChaimDaily 9 Adar 3:5 Asur to say LH in a sneaky fashion, i.e. to make believe one doesnt realize that what hes saying is negative, or that ploni acts this way 3:6 Asur to say LH even if you know in advance that it wont cause any harm to the subject.